I am very proud to welcome Lorelei to my blog. Lorelei is one of Samhain’s top selling authors. The books of her Rough Rider Series have all been instant bestsellers at numerous bookstores – as have her other novels. I’ve been fortunate enough to work with Lorelei on the Menage and More Anthology, and I gotta say, it’s been a privilege and a pleasure. And now I won’t say anymore, because I know you are here to visit her and not me…
Does too much information ruin your perception? And your reputation?
I was in the store the other day and that John Mayer song “Real World” came over the loudspeaker. Now, I’ve always loved that song, and hummed along whenever I heard it. I thought it had a fresh, funky kind of vibe – easy listening, but hip, with smooth jazzy undertones, know what I mean? So when it started playing, I didn’t experience that feeling of happiness I used to get, I thought…that John Mayer…he’s such a pompous jackass. Not only does he have crappy tastes in swimsuits (have you seen him in that neon one-piece atrocity?) he’s stunted emotionally, no better than a high school jock gossiping in the locker room. How could he kiss and tell, not only with what he’d done between the sheets with Jessica Simpson, but with Jennifer Aniston? He’s not that cute. And really, he does make the kind of music my mother likes….
Whoa. Reality check. I don’t know John Mayer. Never met the man. I’m making all these assumptions about his character on here-say. What I’ve read in line at the supermarket tabloids like the National Enquirer, or thumbing through Entertainment Weekly, or what I’ve seen on celebrity gossip shows on TV and online clips. How do I know he isn’t misrepresented, misunderstood and just plain misquoted?
I don’t. In this day and age of instant entertainment, and tell-all’s about every person who’s had fifteen minutes of fame, you never know when it might come back to haunt you. Or you might come off looking bad—whether you intended it or not. And usually, there isn’t a damn thing you can do about it.
These days I’m more of a public person than I’ve ever been. My books are out there for download at several online booksellers and in print on the bookstore shelves. My website is out there for people to browse. I have a myspace account. I comment on blogs that interest me. I speak at conferences. I’ve volunteered my time to national writer’s organizations. I have a yahoo group devoted to readers/fans/interested parties of my work. On that loop I talk about works in progress, upcoming promotional appearances, all the usual stuff we authors have to do these days to get our names out there. I try to keep these things focused on the business part of my persona, but personal friendships and relationships always spring out of these situations. You share something personal with me, it’s only courtesy for me to do the same. So if I toss off a comment about how I don’t have a dog…and it resonates wrong with a reader, I’ve turned them off completely, not only from me personally, but from my work. Chances are they’ll tell another person that I’m anti-pet (and this has happened, I mentioned in passing I don’t have a dog by choice and the next person who saw me said, “Hey, it’s the dog-hater!” true story) and so on. All because of one innocuous comment.
Have actions or reactions of a person you admired somehow changed your perception of him or her? Inquiring minds want to know…and naturally I’ll keep it just between us ☺
Lorelei James is not a rabble-rouser, rather, a mild-mannered Midwestern housewife who pens hot and naughty erotic stories about modern day cowboys and Indians. For more information on Lorelei and her books, visit: www.loreleijames.com